Dec 22, 2018

Checking in!

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I have been unable to access the forum so I'm glad to somehow get back in this morning. Is there an appropriate section for just checking in?


I've been made aware of a couple of very high profile situations in churches which are weighing on my heart as I support the survivors wanting to come forward but not knowing how to safely. They are driven by concern for other victims and the injustice of seeing the perpetrators carry on with such protection and favor. Today I must admit the "church" seems to resemble the mob more than anything else I can think of at the moment.


A childhood friend is coming to stay tonight. We will laugh, cry, talk about the heavy and the remarkably trivial with the comfort of 45 years of enjoying each other through every life season. Peace to all of you here!

Sorry to hear about all of this! Anytime you cannot log in, try clearing your cache. If that doesn't work, please let me know. As to survivors coming forward, that's a heavy task, as you know. I would direct them to Jimmy Hinton. He's really the expert in that area. For supportive community and pastoral care, they will of course find that here. I think we do need a thread for checking in...I will set that up. Thanks for the idea!


Blessings on tonight! Much love...Christine

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